Come buy with me and be my love: Part 2, … let’s hope no one puts asunder
[Continued from yesterday's Part 1.]
By: David A. Smith
In yesterday’s post featuring a well-titled New York Times story, we focused mainly on the upside of premarital homebuying – how it tends to precipitate the decision to marry.

Honey … I guess we’ve got to get married
Since it does, policy makers like to incentive the buying of first homes:
Pete Flint, the chief executive of Trulia, a real estate search engine, points out that people who have never bought a home make up a demographic tending toward the young and unmarried.
Enabling people to marry sooner ties to population growth, which ties to desirable national demographics.
And then there’s the federal tax credit for first-time home buyers [spotted as a worthwhile initiative by AHI in 2003 – Ed.], to expire on April 30, 2010, which will provide several thousand dollars in income tax relief.

With this tax credit, we multi-ethnic models were able to pretend we’re a family!
[Unless the recession turns around quickly, expect to see Congress extend the tax credit yet again – Ed.]
It offers federal income tax relief equal to 10% of the purchase price of a home — capped at $8,000 — for couples earning less than $150,000 and individuals earning less than $75,000.
As we saw in Great laws from little blog posts grow, the first-time home buyer credit really works – and now is an excellent time to be providing a stimulus to encourage young couples to move into home buying.
That deadline is lighting a fire under some couples in the serious, or almost-serious, stages of a relationship.
As we saw yesterday, the relationships’ degree of seriousness corresponds directly to whether the parties are willing to co-invest in a long-lived, illiquid asset of much more value to them jointly than individually. Come to think of it, isn’t that a fair economic definition of marriage itself? A long-lived asset. Illiquid (hard to get out of). Of minimal value separately.
They worry that if they don’t act now, they may squander the best property-buying opportunity they will have for a while.

Or your mother won’t fund your down payment.
I’ve posted before on the many reasons why single-family homes are resistant to massive price drops; one reason is buyer anxiety about the availability of long-term secure tenure with investment potential.
There are also signs (or at least a feeling in the air) that the housing market could be picking up (including word that this [2009 – Ed.] may be a good year for Wall Street bonuses).
As we know, it was.
Mr. Flint said that trulia.com had received numerous e-mail messages from unmarried couples asking about the logistics — and wisdom — of buying a home together.

Many of the queries are about the first-time home buyer tax credit and how or whether it can be divided between people whose marital status doesn’t allow them to jointly file a tax return.
(The answer from the Internal Revenue Service: only one of the two people can claim the tax break if they are unmarried at the time of the sale. It cannot be divided, even if the couple marry later in the year.)

Things get dicey when you try to undo it
Marriage creates a legal institution – the marital couple. It is an economic joining.
Trulia posts such questions on a message board called Trulia Voices, and real estate professionals often chime in with answers. One of the notes on the board contained the following cautionary tale from a couple who split up, rather than marry, six months after buying a new house.
That’s why you should cohabit before you coinvest – you can dissolve the relationship a whole lot more easily than you can dissolve the economic partnership of co-owning a house.
One person in the pair had provided a 10% cash down payment on the home; the other borrowed 10%; and they both signed a mortgage for the remaining 80%. Once they decided to break up, their only recourse seemed to be to try and sell the house.
“Yet,” the e-mail post says, “only being six months into the house it would be difficult to break even (right?). He is in no financial position to take on the home himself and I would be strapped if I did.”
Ergo, don’t buy unless you’re sure. In my case, I closed on a condo, got married days later, and then went on honeymoon. We lived together only after we got married.
Real estate lawyers say that there are more complications for unmarried property owners who part ways than there are for married property owners who divorce — and a less clear process for resolving them.
Marriage’s economic fusion can be replicated with domestic partnerships; what cannot as yet be replicated are the favorable tax and health-care treatments accorded the legally married.

Is that a rhetorical question, or what?
“By default, our laws are suited for married couples acquiring assets,” says Luigi Rosabianca, a real estate lawyer in Manhattan.
Because if you’re not married, you’re unlikely to be sharing assets, and the assets you’ll be sharing are chattel – portable – hence subject to a ready division.
Under New York State law, he explains, a husband and wife are considered “tenants by the entirety” when they buy property.
State laws vary, but in general, they are construed for the benefit of surviving spouses – an important default benefit not generally extended to civic domestic partnerships.
That ensures, among other things, that the property will automatically transfer to the surviving spouse if one person dies.
Marriage, in short, is a bond accorded a higher status than a simple partnership. That principle is believable and logical (and a refutation of the claim that civic domestic partnerships can give all the same benefits).
“If you are not married, you have to fill in the blanks,” Mr. Rosabianca said. Toward that end, he recommends that unmarried couples consider signing what amounts to a pre-prenuptial — legal agreements specifying the unknowns, including “who contributes what percentage of the expenses, mortgage, taxes, common charges, utilities.” He added, “You also have to account for capital gains — what percentage goes to whom.”
All of these are simply negotiating contingencies against the exit. If, when being married, you pledge and mean the ’til death do us part, then none of them matter. But if you’re buying property and are not married, then the question is – Well, why not? You must be contemplating the possibility of sepaqrating.
And there can be other issues. “Say this house is close to your mother,” Mr. Rosabianca said. It may be wise to sign an agreement saying, “If we break up, you have to buy me out, because I don’t want to live near your mother.”
Uh … even if we don’t break up?

This would be less of a problem if I had no one in common with you
Couldn’t that be a problem for a married couple going through a divorce as well?
“With a married couple that would probably be handled with the divorce,” he said. With an unmarried couple “it’s almost more prudent to be proactive in addressing these concerns.”

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